Every ending is connected to a new beginning. The holidays and year end lay the ground work for contemplation in the quiet of winter and the new year. Post celebration, activity and travel, we are in a new space of openness. This reflective space can especially illuminate the endings and beginnings in relationships with ourselves and with others. We may find ourselves considering what we need to release and what we would like to invite into our selves and lives.
Within our hearts, minds and bodies, we may want to let go of obstacles put in our paths. When the obstacles have served their purpose and lessons have been learned about why they were put on our path, we are often most ready to begin letting go. Even with this understanding, it is common for the anticipation of letting go to bring many concerns and feelings into the mind body.
A metaphor that speaks to this for me is captured in the image below of the North Kaibab Trail of Grand Canyon (credit NPS). Similar to taking the first steps of a long journey along a steep canyon, when we take the first steps in letting go of something or someone, we often feel and recognize the risks at hand because we know the bottom and focus on it. This emotional and relational bottom can be about not having that something or someone in our life and being disconnected from them and ourselves. The fear of the falling to the bottom can stop some from taking that first step of letting go on the journey because it obscures the bigger picture.
However when we look at the larger view of the journey ahead, we can sometimes lean into the first step knowing that letting go will release the obstacles, allowing something new to take its place. This new aspect of ourselves or opportunity in our life may lend itself to being more connected. Welcoming what needs to come in its place is often key. With the metaphor of walking along the steep canyon, taking the first step reconnects one to the path, moving one forward on the journey. This preparatory welcoming truly invites the opportunity to take in the full views and experience of being in the canyon, eventually allowing one to see and be in the spectacular that was initially hidden by the perceived fears by focusing on the bottom.
Tosha Silver is an eloquent and profound story teller of life. I share her words below. Consider them as a parting gift to yourself as you venture into the open space by taking the first step in letting go. This will help to welcome the new connections in relationship to yourself and with others. Read them aloud to fully feel them resonate in the mind body. You may even want to write them or make art about them.
“Let what needs to go, go. Let what needs to come, come.”
With openness for what needs to go and come on the journey,