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The Intentional Peace Project

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After continual shock following the violence and fear mongering of politicians, I have decided to start a project. I hope that you will all join in with me in this challenge to spread peace.

My heart grows heavier each time I hear of violence and anger in this world. I then want to shut out the world, become more insular and defended. As the suffering escalates in our country, an instinct in me wants to become numb and turn away, ignore it, leave it up to those in power to fix.  It feels as if we are all asleep, some of us more than others, to the growing suffering of our planet. It is easy to ignore the gravity of fear-based politics and violence happening far from our homes. It is easy to think and do nothing about the growing environmental issues. Because of course, these problems are so big and we are but one individual. If feels as if we cannot make a difference as one.

I am proposing we all wake up from our slumber of inaction, turn peace from passive to active and intentional. I choose to stand in my power as a women who believes peace is intentional and active. Rather than a passive stance, I choose peace in my daily lives, in every moment. So can you. We can choose to be friendly and nice to our neighbors, assume that no matter the struggle, everyone is just doing the best that they can. We can choose to have empathy for, yet set kind and gentle boundaries when we encounter those living their lives and making decisions based in fear and anger. We can choose to spend the extra effort to be peaceful and spread our vision of peace. To encourage a culture of love and compassion as our national collective language and energetic.

I believe that action starts with one and can grow exponentially to become action of many. So, I plan to start practicing intentional peace daily for the next year. I will post once per day to share my intentional action towards peace. I don’t expect you to be able to devote a full year to posting your intentional actions towards peace, so share what you can. Maybe just 15 days of intentional peace.

Let’s create a ripple of intentional peace in our country. Let’s start today, July 18th, 2016. You can follow my intentional peace process as well as share your own via Instagram: @YOURSOULTHERAPY or Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YourSoulTherapy/

To ACTIVE AND INTENTIONAL PEACE,

Kim Ottinger

To schedule a free 20 minute phone consult with Kim for art therapy, EMDR, talk therapy, or sensorimotor therapy or to work with a therapist who knows personally what it means to embody daily intentional peace and can guide you to peace in yourself in Washington, DC, email her at kim@yoursoultherapy.com

THE INCREDIBLE HEALING POWER OF EMDR

 

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If you are looking for a powerful intervention to release haunting memories and release you from the grips of your history, look no further!

EMDR – If you live in the DC area, you automatically assume it is some sort of fancy government acronym. Actually it is a form of psychotherapy which stands for Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing. My first experience with EMDR was as a client some 10 or 15 years ago. I sat in the therapist’s office mesmerized by this process which seemed to magically remove the distress attached to old memories that haunted my mind daily. The memories that seemed so palpable and painful became almost fuzzy and hard to remember, no longer feeling painful or anxiety provoking. It was then that I decided one day I would learn to be the magician behind the curtain, helping others heal and recover.

If you have tried other methods and they have not worked for you, I highly recommend this process, based on personal experience as well the many successes I have seen with clients. Often clients will leave the session explaining, “I don’t know why that felt so scary before” or with a renewed sense of motivation or freedom. This efficient process releases you from limiting beliefs and fears.

It feels a bit like a science experiment when you first try it. You either follow a focal point (a pointer, a hand, a light) with your eyes side to side or you hold alternatively vibrating squares in your hand or listen to alternating beeps from headphones, all while recalling a memory. You think, how could this possibly make a difference? The stimulation of your brain, both hemispheres and increased electrical current, along with the process meant to hone in on specific feelings/beliefs and memories seems to be the perfect recipe for healing. Just shifting your energy and attention in this manner can alleviate years of pain and suffering. Clients often have spiritual experiences and awakenings as a result of this relief. Life becomes easier to manage and energy becomes spacious. 

While this can be a very clinical protocol, I find that there is room for spiritual and relational experiences as well. When there is space to move and grow, your soul can align to its journey and live it fully.

Check the EMDRIA website for more information about the process, research, and the impact of this method https://emdria.site-ym.com/?120

 

To FREEDOM from HAUNTING memories and your history,

Kim Ottinger

To schedule a free 20 minute phone consult with Kim for art therapy, EMDR, talk therapy, or sensorimotor therapy or to work with a therapist who knows personally the healing power of EMDR and can guide you through recovery in Washington, DC, email her at kim@yoursoultherapy.com

The Myth of Laziness – 4 STEPS TO MOTIVATE YOURSELF IN YOUR CAREER LIFE

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“It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting” 

– The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho

Do you often label yourself as LAZY? Do you feel like a FRAUD at work?

Do you find yourself needing to hyper focus for several hours a day at work just to get it done, and then you become distracted by social media, reading article upon article on news and entertainment, or better yet, Tetris.  As you count the hours you ACTUALLY WORK at work, you notice a trend of many many seemingly wasted hours. You feel that you should be feeling thankful for a job that is well paying and high up the ladder, yet you find yourself feeling lazy.

Perhaps you’re lack of focus and laziness is something else.

Maybe your bouts of hyper focus and laziness are more about a lack of interest in your work, need for a challenge, and a need to escape. Often, when we are not stimulated enough, we become uninterested, unmotivated. So we need more stimulation and challenge. If you imagine yourself in a job you love and are passionate about, do you see yourself often escaping to Tetris and social media, or will you be too busy and focused on building your dream to be concerned with time wasters?

Or maybe you feel motivated by your sense of self-worth. Very often we are driven by a need to feel “good enough” rather than a wish to be self-compassionate and live out our personal dreams. This wish to be “good enough” is integrated into our sense of self-worth at a very young age and is difficult to consciously see. Take a moment and notice, DO YOU TAKE ACTION TO FULFILL YOUR DREAMS AND NOURISH YOUR SOUL OR DO YOU DO IN ORDER TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH AND AVOID FAILURE?

Let’s recategorize your laziness to domains a) lack of motivation and b) a need to escape some aspect of your work environment and c) a need for dreams, challenges, and stimulation. Filling the different domains of your life with fulfilling, soul nourishing activities are the seeds to growing joy and contentment in your moment to moment and lifelong path.

Here are some basic ways to start building motivation, taking steps towards a life in which you will no longer label yourself as lazy. A life in which it is possible to enjoy, be financially supported by, and feel fulfilled by your career. Listen to your heart space and intuition – embrace your dreams.

1 Identify a Long Term Vision. 

Create a list of all the career goals you want to achieve in your life (as we are talking about career aspirations, we will focus on this, though you may substitute career goals with other types of goals and/or values). Examples include helping others, leadership roles, owning a business, charitable donations, discovery, traveling, financial stability, creative endeavors, etc. Take no more than 5 minutes to narrow your goals to no more than 3 using your gut. Write out your 3 top goals on a piece of paper.

2 Vision and Visualize

Place your goals in a place you can see daily and every morning allow your mind to come back to this vision and further flush it out. Take time here and there to meditate on it and visualize the details and concrete vision of this future career path. Perhaps it lines up with your current career, or maybe it is very different.

3 Materialize your Vision

Create a plan for action. What steps will you take to work towards this goal? Networking, workplace interviews, research, consultation calls? Daily life will continually try to get in the way of your dreams, you will have to make some time and space to materialize your vision. Allow the plan to be loose yet be committed. If you are unable to meet deadlines you set for yourself, be compassionate and continue to work towards your vision. Notice your blocks, pursue support to move past blocks, ask for help rather than self-sabotaging.

4 Check in with your Self-Talk 

Notice how your self-talk has changed now that you are working towards a dream. When you feed your soul – the energy resonates, and reverberates. You will see the difference this makes in your internal world as well as your external, your soul nourishing energy will magnetize to those with similar presence. You deserve to make your dream a reality.

I know this plan works because it is my reality. With some dreaming, visioning, hard work, and trust in divine power, I am now living my dreams and more. I love my work, I feel joyful when I arrive at my office, financially stable, and feel highly fulfilled by my work on a soul level. I share my experiences with my clients, generosity plus boundaries breeds joy. I am honored to help you manifest your dreams. 

 

To dreaming & living big,

Kim Ottinger

To schedule a free 20 minute phone consult with Kim for art therapy, talk therapy, or sensoriotor therapy or to explore a career transition in Washington, DC, email her at kim@yoursoultherapy.com

How to Grow Roots :: Meditation for Connection & Centering

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Today I invite you to explore what it feels like to grow roots.

This very simple imaginative exercise consistently provides
my clients and myself with powerful outcomes.

Why is there a need to root?

Do you feel like you become consumed by your worry or sadness?

Sometimes we become so lost in worry and grief that we lose sight of both the big picture and the joy in the present moment. Our focus tunnel vision on loss or possible future mistakes. While this mechanism is natural to our human brain (constantly working to prevent future mistakes or danger), it is also not productive to be consumed by the past or future, especially when doing so has no positive outcome.

Tuning into your body and the pulse of the universe can snap you quickly back to the present and out of time-wasting thought processes. It is no surprise that rooting also aligns your root chakra energy. This chakra relates to peace and stability as well as safety and security.

Try this quick exercise to explore how quickly you can recover a positive worry-free attitude focused in the present. 

Begin in a seated position on a chair or the floor, any leg and arm positioning that feels comfortable.

Take several deep breaths into your lower belly, allowing for a slightly longer exhale than inhale.

Notice how your body feels, what areas of your body are activated in conjunction with your worry or emotional state.

Now begin to align your spine, starting with the lowest vertebrae, stacking each vertebrae atop the lowest until your spine aligns through to the base of your skull.

Relax and breath into this position, releasing tension that may have come up.

Notice the base of your spine and your pelvic floor and imagine this as the base of your trunk.

Imagine your torso as a tree trunk, standing tall and comfortably on the earth.

Allow your tree trunk to slowly grow roots.

The roots grow deep into the earth, connecting you with each life form on the planet and centering you.

You notice the exchange of energy between the pulse of the planet, what does it feel like to connect with the purpose of the planet as a whole.

Take comfort in the cosmic energy vibrations from the heart of the planet, knowing you are never alone, always connected.

Take a sensation snapshot of this feeling in your body and heart.

Take this with you through your day, share some of this energy to others in who are in deficit of this energy today.

 

To rooting and reconnecting,

Kim Ottinger

To schedule a free 20 minute phone consult with Kim for art therapy, talk therapy, or sensoriotor therapy or to explore chakras or meditation Washington, DC, email her at kim@yoursoultherapy.com