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August Awakenings ~ IT’S NOT ME – IT’S YOU!

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The last few months have been energetically intense. We delved into truths and through much work were able to awaken to the truths and own them. The energy of the those truths of the women coming though this office have become apparent – It is not the women who are struggling, it is their partners who are truly struggling.

The divine feminine energetic is coming to truth within many of us and you may be feeling it as well. Finally, we feel READY TO STAND IN OUR POWER – we are no longer attaching to feelings of being NOT GOOD ENOUGH or THE VICTIM. Actually all the weight we have been carrying about not being good enough or being hurt has been someone else’s all along. Now we can see with clarity, we are feminine nurturing energy and we have always been supporting and loving those in our lives at the expense of our own well being. It is time to set firm boundaries with fierce love; to feel invincible to other’s attempts to manipulate or project their own struggles on to us; stand confidently in our power to love peacefully even in the face of conflict.


 Let’s create a template in our mind-bodies for this new way of showing up in the world.

In your heart hold these mantras and allow yourself to visualize and feel the energy aligning to the words:

“At my core I am divine feminine energy – I love fiercely with unbreakable boundaries.

I do not take responsibility for others’ emotions and am accountable only for my own actions.

I fully embrace my shadows and light – I stand securely in my own power.”

Meditate on these mantras daily for at least a week and allow your mind-body to heal from past wounds to your heart and boundaries.


To the divine feminine power within us all,

Kim Ottinger

To schedule a free 20 minute phone consult with Kim for art therapy, talk therapy, or sensorimotor therapy or to work with a therapist who knows how to STAND IN HER POWER in Washington, DC, email her at kim@yoursoultherapy.com

THE INCREDIBLE HEALING POWER OF EMDR

 

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If you are looking for a powerful intervention to release haunting memories and release you from the grips of your history, look no further!

EMDR – If you live in the DC area, you automatically assume it is some sort of fancy government acronym. Actually it is a form of psychotherapy which stands for Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing. My first experience with EMDR was as a client some 10 or 15 years ago. I sat in the therapist’s office mesmerized by this process which seemed to magically remove the distress attached to old memories that haunted my mind daily. The memories that seemed so palpable and painful became almost fuzzy and hard to remember, no longer feeling painful or anxiety provoking. It was then that I decided one day I would learn to be the magician behind the curtain, helping others heal and recover.

If you have tried other methods and they have not worked for you, I highly recommend this process, based on personal experience as well the many successes I have seen with clients. Often clients will leave the session explaining, “I don’t know why that felt so scary before” or with a renewed sense of motivation or freedom. This efficient process releases you from limiting beliefs and fears.

It feels a bit like a science experiment when you first try it. You either follow a focal point (a pointer, a hand, a light) with your eyes side to side or you hold alternatively vibrating squares in your hand or listen to alternating beeps from headphones, all while recalling a memory. You think, how could this possibly make a difference? The stimulation of your brain, both hemispheres and increased electrical current, along with the process meant to hone in on specific feelings/beliefs and memories seems to be the perfect recipe for healing. Just shifting your energy and attention in this manner can alleviate years of pain and suffering. Clients often have spiritual experiences and awakenings as a result of this relief. Life becomes easier to manage and energy becomes spacious. 

While this can be a very clinical protocol, I find that there is room for spiritual and relational experiences as well. When there is space to move and grow, your soul can align to its journey and live it fully.

Check the EMDRIA website for more information about the process, research, and the impact of this method https://emdria.site-ym.com/?120

 

To FREEDOM from HAUNTING memories and your history,

Kim Ottinger

To schedule a free 20 minute phone consult with Kim for art therapy, EMDR, talk therapy, or sensorimotor therapy or to work with a therapist who knows personally the healing power of EMDR and can guide you through recovery in Washington, DC, email her at kim@yoursoultherapy.com

#BADASSWOMENCONFESS

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I must confess…. I too am in fact, a BADASS WOMAN. And I am PROUD OF MY BADASSERY.

I never pass up a good opportunity.
I don’t play dumb.
I am active.
I work very hard.
And I like a challenge.
I make decisions in my life based on what is right for me.
I follow my intuition.
I am a warrior goddess.
I live in the world of reality, work, recreation, creativity, and the soul.
I devote time to me and those I love.

I do not let people walk on me.
I gracefully (and sometimes not so gracefully) love people, but I do not let people take advantage of me.
I am genuine, no bullshit, strong.
My morals are high and I am honest to a fault.
I have tattoos.
I rock climb.
I enjoy getting my hands dirty.
I am real, and I am a BADASS WOMAN.

And, I am imperfect. My life can be messy, my mind can be messy, and my heart can be messy.

In my first few years of college I struggled greatly with anxiety. Fear consumed me and left me hopeless and exhausted. Despite my BADASSNESS, at times I struggled to make it through the day. I spent many days isolating and avoiding. Until I began to do my work and recover. It took all my determination to move forward.

At 26 I was married after a 7 year long relationship, and at 27, I was divorced. My world crashed around me, as I released the life plans I had made and ventured into my new reality. While I knew I did not want to end my marriage, I could no longer sustain my heart and soul energy in that relationship. I made the brave and terrifying decision to leave. I promptly planned a party with my closest friends to celebrate the separation. And I moved on.

Many tears later, here I am. Braver, stronger, smarter, and more content. What did it take to get me here, to a place of more stability and contentment? A few key elements helped me survive these difficult periods in my life.

I believe that walking towards fear and depth is one key element to my growth. When I am fearful, I know it is an indication of an attachment I have to the world or life.

Reaching out to friends and family for support has also been invaluable for my heart and soul. I am eternally grateful for the unwavering support of my friends and family.

Mentors and spiritual experiences along the path have guided me to remove the limits I place on myself.

And my own personal work has been the most important aspect of my growth. I have worked with therapists, coaches, and supervisors throughout my life. I would not be able to show up for my clients without doing my own work. I know my shadows and my light. I practice self-care and self-compassion.

Being a BADASS WOMAN means stepping up to the challenge of self exploration. It takes bravery and determination to delve into your own depths and know your shadows and light. Being a BADASS WOMAN means feeling your emotions and following your soul’s path.

To living into the fullness of your badassary,

Kim Ottinger

To schedule a free 20 minute phone consult with Kim for art therapy, talk therapy, or sensoriotor therapy or to work with a therapist who knows badass women in Washington, DC, email her at kim@yoursoultherapy.com